I was really sad to read that stress during pregnancy can affect one’s baby, as evidenced here, here, here, here, and here.
I’ve been through an immense amount (to my reckoning) of unneeded stress through the tail end of my first trimester till today with virtually no support from anyone. Hence I worry about my baby girl’s brain development. Trying to stay positive has been an uphill battle.
Advice from the first article: people needed to develop greater sensitivity to pregnant women’s needs.
Yet most people are insensitive to pregnant women’s needs, simply judging from a poll taken among friends. Worse if you’re having your second. I’ve been accused of being a bad mother, lazy, negligent, emotional, overreactive… the list goes on.
It doesn’t feel like there’s any solution.
Mephala is a strange and rather interesting 
January 27th, 2009 at 9:57 am
I agreee. No one cares how you feel. They think we can cope up or we are just pretending to be tired and stressed all the time. You need some sort of support and understanding. You also expect to be pampered but its all wrong. And if you forget to do something for first child then you are labelled as ignoring your child and labelled as bad mother. I am pregnant at the moment, feel like no one cares or loves me.
February 2nd, 2009 at 12:04 am
Aye totally. What used to be tiredness during pregnancy is now called laziness and child neglect. I’ve decided to block out all the toxic comments (and avoid the toxic people) and just work out the best way to live each day with my child. May not be “best practice” for everyone but it works for us. And you know, a lot of mothers do the same. They just don’t tell.
Hang in there. I care. We’re all in the same boat. I am lucky to have found a friend of a friend who is exactly in the same boat as me and we complain to and support each other via Facebook and email. So feel free to drop me a note if you want to chat.
Huge hugs!
M