I was on the receiving end of a couple of rude comments lately while complaining about the lack of freedom I have right now. The comments were along the line of “you chose to have children so you shouldn’t complain”.
Let me say this now: you are entitled to complain. It is a safety valve. Everyone needs to vent. You are entitled to complain. People who keep their frustrations inside either go mad and/or kill themselves or hurt others when they explode one day.
The argument against complaining is akin to saying:
You chose to work so you shouldn’t complain.
You chose to get married so you shouldn’t complain.
You wore a short skirt and got groped by a gross stranger so you shouldn’t complain.
Caring about someone means listening to him or her and sharing their pain and not being judgemental or taking it personally. Remember, you too are entitled to complain.
Mephala is a strange and rather interesting 
April 14th, 2010 at 11:58 pm
Well said!