Strange Machines

I haven’t been posting much because I’ve been falling asleep a lot while nursing both kids to sleep. They both latch on and nurse till they sleep. Jade usually unlatches first and rolls over to her crib and then Jack rolls over to his side and sleeps too.

But when the nightwaking party begins, all bets are off. Sometimes one wakes and calls for me, waking the other if I don’t hear the escalating calls, and I’m back to tandem nursing them both back to bed. Maybe that is more efficient, because often after nursing one back to bed, the other wakes.

Still, I am grateful I have my iPhone and usually play some inane game or read some news offline to pass the time. I could look lovingly at them as I nurse them to sleep but it is too dark. Sometimes I do shine a bit of light on their sweet sleeping faces and think aww…

I show Jade how to pet Tuxie gently. He sits like an angel.

Most recently, Jack and Jade have started waking up at night at the same time. Although they still take turns to wake multiple times – Jade twice to thrice and Jack anything from 3-6 times – it is usually only once a night when they wake in tandem.

But last night, twice, I ran into the bedroom to find both kids sitting up in bed beside the other, looking rather dazed. So I hugged them both and nursed them back to sleep.

Talk about a conspiracy but how cute it is to see the two of them sitting together in the dark.

Both times he decided he wanted to write something, so last week he grabbed a marker and wrote. He asked me, “Mom, what is C O O L?” I said, “cool” and he showed me his writing. I was so thrilled I kept the napkin he wrote it on. It is now on the fridge.

Today, just before bath time he asked his Dad for a marker. “I want to write, Dad,” he said.

He sat beside me (who was frantically trying to patch my WoW game to 3.3) and said, “How do I spell CAT?” I said C A T. And he wrote it. Then his Dad called him for his bath. He said “Hang on,” and told me he had a surprise for me.

He asked, “How do you spell your name?” I spelled it out for him. “Wow, that’s a long name,” he commented. “That’s why I gave you and Jade short names,” I replied.

So on an envelope, he wrote C H R i S T i N A. “Don’t look at it, Mom!” he hollered, as he ran for his bath. “It’s a surprise!”

(In other news, attempting to play WoW again despite crazy schedule.)

When I first opened the box and lifted the carrier out I swore I smelt walnut. It was a wonderful earthy smell and I immediately thought of walking through a dense forest with the crackling of dried twigs underfoot. Indeed this carrier was 100% organic.

I always wash anything I buy before using it and the Boba smelt clean and freshly laundered after a gentle Seventh Generation wash. It felt lighter than the Ergo and soft like the Ergo Organic.

After I let it air dry (and it dried overnight in our air conditioned room), I had a good look at it. I am very nitpicky about make and spend hours inspecting the seams of any cloth product I want to buy, much to the chagrin of the salesperson. In this case, the make was great, very well sewn. The seamstress did a wonderful job. My world was complete again. Yes, I am OCD like that.

There was no learning curve at all for me, being a seasoned Ergo user. Just snap the Boba around my waist, pop baby in, lift shoulder straps over my shoulders, clip, pull straps to tighten and we were off.

It felt exactly like the Ergo with perhaps even better support on the hips but I found myself missing the pouch strap (to hold my Ergo pouch), being a mom on the go, and the sleeping hood.

Jade at 6 months, being a larger baby, met the Boba on her nose, but even the elevated height was unable to support her drooping head while she dozed.

Now, the Boba was designed for children from 1-4 years old but while toddlers nap when back-carried, a sleeping hood would be really helpful as support. I would have loved a sleeping hood for the Boba, both for Jack and Jade.

At home I use the Boba with Jade and when she dozes I need one hand to support her head. The one time I carried Jack on my back and he fell asleep, he flopped all over but thankfully did not fall out of the lower backed Ergo Classic. Last week, his Daddy carried him on his back in the Boba and he fell asleep, flopping around rather dangerously in Ikea despite the higher back compared to the Ergo Classic. We both agreed that a sleeping hood, or some means to secure a sleeping toddler is pretty important.

Meanwhile, I was rather disappointed that we couldn’t quite figure out the foot straps for Jack. Perhaps he is just too tall for them – he is 3 and a half and over a metre tall – and the angle was just wrong.

But Jade had no problem putting her foot through as you can see in the picture. She swung her feet and in they went, into the foot strap. She won’t be needing them for a while but I’m glad they’re there if she does.

Jack told me that he didn’t need the straps as the Boba offered sufficient leg support compared to the Ergo Classic and he was quite pleased he didn’t have to insert his legs through the loops of the Patapum, which got us in a tangle whenever we had to remove him from the carrier.

The beauty of back carrying with the Boba is simply have your toddler either stand on a chair or leap onto your back and hang on to you, lift up the shoulder straps, clip and go, then to remove, unbuckle and slide the toddler down your back. It truly is the best back carrier for any toddler. And the parent who uses it. Let’s not forget the other user.

The Boba has become my favourite back carrier for Jack (when he isn’t nodding off) and spare front carrier for Jade at home. It has a much higher back than the Ergo and gives Jack’s back better support. It is safe for Jade because of the 100% organic cotton and organic batting – she loves to snap her gums on the shoulder straps like a snapping turtle and gnaws on.

Many products with padding, for example quilts, contain permanent pressed cotton batting, which has an unremovable layer of formaldehyde on it for fireproofing, and pesticides from the crop (which will come off after a few washes).

Naturally I was concerned about my current Ergos and emailed Lulu at Mummysmilk – since Ergo’s website does not provide an email and their form did not work – and she promptly replied that Ergo says that their cotton batting is not permanent pressed. I have washed them enough times to remove any pesticides so I am relieved there, although I wish they have email addresses on their website and use organic batting in their carriers.

But I digress.

With a completely organic product, there are no chemicals or finishings on it, so you don’t have to worry about pesticides or formaldehyde at all. And that is the Boba.

A few other nice things about the carrier:

It is completely made in the USA. It is the lowest price baby carrier I’ve found that does the job. And it does it well. US$99 + shipping. You readers get another 10% off with the coupon code: mephala. Good from 15 Nov – 14 Dec 2009.

I would highly recommend the Boba to anyone whose baby does not like to use a sleeping hood or who has an older child. I survived carrying Jack in the Ergo Classic for 2 years without using their very unfriendly hood and just one hand to support his head in a front carry.

For me, the fact that it is 100% organic trumps everything else, but having used my Ergo Organic for so long (and through so many washes) and having to manage 2 children, I use my Ergo Organic for Jade and the Boba as a back carrier for Jack.

I often carry both children at the same time. There is no arm numbness nor back or shoulder pain, although one must be mindful about tightening the straps between the shoulders and chest. I’ve comfortably carried the kids together for an hour, maximum 2, with both the Ergo Organic + Boba, and the Ergo Organic + Ergo Classic.

But the choice is clear. Jack has told me that the Boba is much more comfortable than the Ergo Classic and the Patapum and has told me to inform you that it has his vote.

Visit NAP Inc to buy the awesome organic Boba baby carrier. You get another 10% off with the coupon code: mephala from 15 Nov – 14 Dec 2009. Go check it out today!

For the terminally sleep deprived, here is a cheat sheet:

Pros:
* Very easy to use and user friendly – low learning curve
* 100% organic (cotton and batting)
* Made in the USA
* Very well-made
* Very light and quick-drying
* Affordable for all at US$99 + 10% off with mephala coupon + shipping
* Beautiful earthy colours
* Suitable for larger babies and all-sized toddlers

Cons:
* No sleeping hood
* No pouch strap
* Can’t roll up and wear on waist

Love-to-haves for Boba 2.0:
* Black carrier (Okay, this is really just for me.)
* Pouch strap
* Sleeping hood that snaps on and off easy (roll up to snap close and wear on waist)
* A matching Boba pouch

Me: Are you glad to have Jade in your life?

Jack nods.

Me: Why?

Jack: Because she’s so cute!

I must confess first. I was a TV addict.

After work, dear hubby and I would cuddle up in from of ole Faithful and watch our fave programs like CSI and munch on junk food. I could not live without TV.

Fast forward to year 2006 and Jack was born. I read that the cost of watching TV was the opportunity lost spent on other more creative and productive things like reading, playing, or talking to Mom. According to many peer-reviewed studies, kids who watch TV have less vocabulary than kids who don’t, and the latter are more sociable.

I was sold. I swore my kid would never watch television. Ever. And I had to set an example. The TV became a glorified plant holder and took up half the space of the living room. Surprisingly I found life without TV pretty alright, since we were busy with the kids and really have no more free time. I do fantasize about the days when the kids are off to college and I can finally turn on my 35″ TV and watch all the dramas I missed in the last 18 years.

As for the old clunker, we gave it away to an elderly neighbour who was thrilled to have it. She was retired and watching TV every day on a tiny 20″. We figured that by the time the kids were old enough to watch TV, our CRT would have decomposed and we could get a brand new plasma t.v. for $200. And let’s make it a Samsung plasma tv or a Panasonic plasma tv.

And is there credence to all the reports about increased sociability and higher vocabulary? According to people who have met Jack, he is very sociable with people of all ages and speaks non-stop like a Duracell bunny.

I don’t know about other children, but after 3.5 years of no TV, Jack isn’t fond of watching it and he would prefer to play or read than watch TV. He went through a brief phase of TV phobia, probably from something he saw on it at Grandma’s house. But he sat through The Lion King (his cousin was watching at Grandma’s) just last week (which from a child’s eyes, seems awfully negative about brotherhood and rather pro-revenge and violence). His first actually.

According to the scientifically-based Nurtureshock, kids pick up extracts from a story, so even if a story with conflict that gets resolved at the end, the child may simply pick up the conflict and not the resolution.

We can’t shelter our children from the media – heck I want my TV back one day – but the first few years are crucial to protect them from the effects of the media, much of which we as adults are already immune to or unaffected by. But children are vulnerable and judging from our viewing of the “children’s movie” The Lion King, I won’t be letting Jack watch any more till he is much older.

It is that developmental time again when babies start learning to crawl, even when they wake up at night, a little perplexed why they are on all fours, and that’s when they call for Mom.

In Jade’s case it started about a month ago, I’d find her looking rather confused, on all fours, so cute in her baby night dress, just wavering. I’d take her in my arms and nurse her back to sleep.

Tonight, she even cried when she felt me move an inch away. But soon she was asleep again, till the next 4 legged wake up call, till morning when she discovers cute animals on her bumper walls and looks upon them in intrigue and amazement.

Photo credit: Vital Images

V of Vital Images kindly snapped some shots of us in our Walnut Boba Baby Carrier the other day when we were having brunch (yes, even Barney thinks it is cool now).

Psst… watch out for my review of the 100% organic Boba Baby Carrier in a couple of weeks. There will be a very special coupon code for you awesome readers to order your very own Boba. If you can’t wait, go check it out first at NAP.

This phenomenon is apparently not new, but it certainly is funny to watch! Jade has started crawling but backwards and gets mighty ornery when she gets backed into a corner.

Meanwhile she and her brother are getting along great! Every morning she chuckles when Jack goes to say good morning to her and he watches her while I go get washed up and water the plants, wash the diapers, etc. The great thing about having 2 is that they rarely miss Mom when she has to pop away for a short while. I can often hear them laughing about something funny Jack is doing to amuse his sister.

Today she couldn’t stop laughing at him balancing on the top of the couch while her Daddy carried her. I’m glad she has a wonderful sense of humour, except when she gets backed into a corner. :p