Banning TV at home
Jack, Parenting, Peaceful Motherhood, Psychology, Science, The Home, Thoughts Add commentsI must confess first. I was a TV addict.
After work, dear hubby and I would cuddle up in from of ole Faithful and watch our fave programs like CSI and munch on junk food. I could not live without TV.
Fast forward to year 2006 and Jack was born. I read that the cost of watching TV was the opportunity lost spent on other more creative and productive things like reading, playing, or talking to Mom. According to many peer-reviewed studies, kids who watch TV have less vocabulary than kids who don’t, and the latter are more sociable.
I was sold. I swore my kid would never watch television. Ever. And I had to set an example. The TV became a glorified plant holder and took up half the space of the living room. Surprisingly I found life without TV pretty alright, since we were busy with the kids and really have no more free time. I do fantasize about the days when the kids are off to college and I can finally turn on my 35″ TV and watch all the dramas I missed in the last 18 years.
As for the old clunker, we gave it away to an elderly neighbour who was thrilled to have it. She was retired and watching TV every day on a tiny 20″. We figured that by the time the kids were old enough to watch TV, our CRT would have decomposed and we could get a brand new plasma t.v. for $200. And let’s make it a Samsung plasma tv or a Panasonic plasma tv.
And is there credence to all the reports about increased sociability and higher vocabulary? According to people who have met Jack, he is very sociable with people of all ages and speaks non-stop like a Duracell bunny.
I don’t know about other children, but after 3.5 years of no TV, Jack isn’t fond of watching it and he would prefer to play or read than watch TV. He went through a brief phase of TV phobia, probably from something he saw on it at Grandma’s house. But he sat through The Lion King (his cousin was watching at Grandma’s) just last week (which from a child’s eyes, seems awfully negative about brotherhood and rather pro-revenge and violence). His first actually.
According to the scientifically-based Nurtureshock, kids pick up extracts from a story, so even if a story with conflict that gets resolved at the end, the child may simply pick up the conflict and not the resolution.
We can’t shelter our children from the media – heck I want my TV back one day – but the first few years are crucial to protect them from the effects of the media, much of which we as adults are already immune to or unaffected by. But children are vulnerable and judging from our viewing of the “children’s movie” The Lion King, I won’t be letting Jack watch any more till he is much older.
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November 17th, 2009 at 12:29 am
I wanted to ban TV too but hubby refused. He needs his TV fix before bedtime and tells me I can just moderate Sean’s TV habits. Thankfully when Sean is awake, the TV is usually off but he does ask me what that big ugly box that takes up half the living room is for.
November 17th, 2009 at 10:03 am
We’ve been with and without TV a few times in our life. We’re currently without but more for our budget (and the fact that all our fave shows are online or Netflix for a lot cheaper). But there is a lot we’re missing too.
I can see the value in TV. I can also see how it can become an “addiction” for kids. But the only kids I’ve ever heard of that would choose TV over anything else were pretty unhappy kids and their parents are really involved. But kids with an interesting life and a strong connection with their families tend to moderate well.
Zeb has gone thru moments of lots of TV. Right now he is again (well, TV on netflix, I mean). But it’s really our fault. We have so much going on, so our life isn’t as interesting as it should be! But I feel better about not having limits on TV, especially at his age. When we did have limits, he was desperate for it and would want to watch it when we visited with friends and family. Now he’s “over it” and can enjoy other people/gatherings without their TV being on.
I do think living TV-free has it worth, especially with younger kids. But we really miss Discovery and History Channel, too. And I’d rather him learn to moderate his TV watching when he’s 10 than when he’s on his own and the consequences are potentially bigger, kwim?
Have you read “Eveything Bad is Good For You”?
November 20th, 2009 at 1:58 am
Kate: My hubby was okay about no TV. He’s not a big fan, thankfully. But for me, it was a big thing to give up. Strangely enough, it didn’t bother me once I made the decision.
Tara: Thanks for the insight and advice on limits. It is a relief. And you are right. When we are at my parents’, Jack isn’t very interested in TV programmes even if the TV is on.
Right now, our lives are so hectic, there really is no time for TV. I would love for him to watch Discovery and Animal Planet when he is older.
Nope, I haven’t but I will definitely have a peek at it next time we’re at the bookstore. Thanks for the tip.