We have been down with gastric flu all week and haven’t done much. I’m so grateful my parents could help out while we all rested to recover. Which goes to show parents never stop parenting. I’ve already promised my kids I’ll help out with their kids…
When Wolf was almost 3, Boy died.
He saw Boy in his dying spasms and watched me weep as we brought him to the emergency hospital and weep even more when he died. He waited while I held Boy in my arms for a long time telling him I loved him and was sorry I didn’t spend more time with him.
The next day he followed us as I brought Boy’s body for cremation and watched me embrace Boy, let him go and wait the three hours for his cremation. He also saw me bring back his ashes in an urn and was curious to see his bones, which I declined because I told him, Mom would be sadder. He accepted.
He saw me go to the hospital and I gave birth to Kitten 2 days later and then life revolved around the 2 children. Occasionally he would ask to see Boy’s bones as the urn is on my dresser but I would gently say no.
That same year in December my grandma fell very ill. He saw me stay with her in the hospital, hold her hand and stroke her hair while talking gently to her. We explained to him that Mama was dying, like Boy did. He nodded.
We were all there before she died. At her wake and funeral he was there all the while and he went up to her in her coffin to say goodbye.
He knows everything dies and seems to accept it. Maybe he has seen it happen twice and thought it isn’t so terrible. We don’t bring it up much but perhaps because he lived it and saw us live through it and go on with our lives that he realized it isn’t something terrible to fear, it is simply a part of life.
Kitten is now busy with cooking and marketing. She carries her basket and picks up items and pops them inside. She also loves to play with the pots and pans I bought Wolf before and I’ve seen her standing with a pan pretending to cook.
So what’s a Momma gonna do? Make her a playset of course.
I cut the pieces out but did not sew them together. Just put the pan on the black felt and cook!
Made an egg sunny side up for them to cook. More on the way!